Today apparently, a little girl told Lailah that she would be her friend and play with her at recess. And Lailah was under the impression that the little girl would stay with her and only play with her.
But apparently the other little girl didn't mean that and lailah felt lied to.
So she confronted the little girl and told her shes not friends with liars and that she doesn't want to be friends with her because she doesn't need friends like that.
All because the little girl wanted to play on a jungle gym that lailah doesn't feel safe on while Lailah wanted to play with the toys on the bench.
So I asked her if she wanted to be friends with the little girl even after all of that happened.
She responded, "yes, but not if shes going to be that way."
So I asked her how she would feel if she told the little girl she'd play with her but didn't know that the little girl wanted to play on the jungle gym; when she didn't want to, and instead wanted to do something else, then the little girl got upset with her and told her that she won't be her friend.
So I sort of switched the situation around.
She told me it would hurt her feelings.
So I then asked her if she considered the idea she could have hurt the little girls feelings. I explained that it may not feel fair to the little girl that she felt she had to sit and do or play something she didn't want to - something Lailah wanted to do instead.
I asked her if she asked to do what the little girl was doing and she said that she didn't feel safe playing on the jungle gym so she just expected the other little girl to do what SHE wanted to do.
I told her that the little girl probably didn't mean for Lailah to feel she was lying, but she didn't know that Lailah wouldn't want to play on the jungle gym with her. That maybe she felt bored doing what lailah wanted to do only. Just as Lailah would if it were the other way around.
Lailah seemed to have understood and she actually seemed to feel guilty.
So I told her if she wanted to remain friends with the girl that she may want to apologize and tell the little girl that it is okay to play on her own, but that she would like it if the little girl notified her before running off on her because it hurt her feelings and made her feel lied to.
Hopefully she heard me and takes what I had to say into consideration.
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